Just like death, heartbreak is one of those unavoidable experiences that we all face in this journey called life. It can take a toll on your self esteem and ability to trust, but I’ve learned that your response to it always determines your level of victory over it. Four things that helped me through heartbreak:
Don’t think you’re incapable of doing the same thing
I remember as a child feeling a bit appalled when someone said that I was going to be a “little heartbreaker” when I grew up. Not realizing it was just a figure of speech, I tried my hardest to prove that person wrong. The truth is, none of us are perfect. We say and do foolish things for a variety of reasons and we can’t take them back. When we’re hurt, our bitterness can produce pride and give us a false sense of entitlement to treat our offenders like garbage. That’s why it’s so important to forgive. One day you will find yourself desiring the same grace that someone else needs right now. It’s best to get in the habit of forgiving, no matter how big or small the situation is.
Let time heal
You might be tempted to use alcohol, drugs, food or another person to numb the feelings, but time is your best friend. The days tend to drag when you’re going through difficult circumstances, but remember that each day that your eyes open and your lungs fill with air is another step closer to freedom. I enjoy memorizing scriptures and filling my mind and spirit with words of wisdom and truth. You have to drown out the negativity, stop living in the past and have hope for your future.
Overcome evil with good
It’s easy to sulk when you’ve become the victim of heartbreak, but it’s the perfect opportunity to reach out to someone else. Volunteer, call a friend or do a favor for a family. You can also treat yourself by reading a good book, traveling or buying a new outfit (but don’t overspend!)
Last, but not least…
LOVE!–Don’t allow one person keep you from loving others genuinely. When you love, there’s always a risk that you will get hurt. It’s ok, just let those lessons builds strength that you never though you could posses. You may not want to get out bed, but you’re needed in this world, so keep living and keep loving.
If you have any lessons about heartbreak, please feel free to share them. God Bless!